Re: Student In Need of Help
Pupil--this man is trying to "pick you up." Nothing good can come out of this situation.
This guy is simply looking for a one night fling. It isn't worth getting
involved at all with this person--drop him like a hot potato.
If this 28 year-old man wanted to date you, he would have initially
asked for a date, like going out somewhere in public when he first
approached you to get to know you better. Instead he asked you to come
to his house for a dinner and conversation; that's just modern language
talk for: do you want to come over and have sex.
I wouldn't meet the creep at Starbucks either; his first inital request
shows that this person is only interested in sex; he just wants to use
you and then will get rid of you.
And the fact that your in high school and he's a teacher says it all.
Public schools, we've all read stories in the newspaper, are filled with
teachers who are sexual predators and prey on their students.
I can almost guarantee 100% that asking you to come over to his house
after school for "dinner" and discuss whatever, broke the school
district's teacher ethics policy, and would wind this joker into some
trouble with the Principal and school district administrator.
This man knows all this already as a teacher from his education classes;
and since you say your a serious student and want to go to graduate
school, once you sleep with this guy, he's going to control your life
until the class ends. And hope you don't have to take another class with
him. If you don't do what he says he might give you a bad grade / bad
recommendation and harass you in class.
If he did want to invite you and a group of students, male and female,
with your parents knowing and approving of you coming over to his home,
that might have been different. I still wouldn't have done it.
You say you're a student of literature; read between the lines.
Given all the info you gave us, from the get go and just by his initial
proposal, this is not a serious relationship for this man. No decent 28
year-old man would ask an 18 year old girl that he was interested in
dating and marrying on their first social meeting to come to his house
for dinner.
This alone speaks volumes, and raises a million zillion red flags.
It is absolutely absurd from this initial request to think that this man is serious about you or even cares for you as a person.
Secondly, analyze your age differences. It is vast. No decent 28 year
old man would be interested in socializing with an 18 year-old girl
who's still in high school, especially if that man is your teacher !
Only indecent 28 year old men would be interested in doing so, and for
one thing only.
Keep your relationship professional. Teacher / student--no fornication,
no nothing. You're already kind of in a bind because you've agreed to
meet him at Starbucks. No matter what, you must not go. Don't do it.
Just tell him your relationship needs to remain professional, teacher /
student, no socializing. He should get the message and leave you alone.
If he retaliates by dropping your grades in class immediately (and only a
real creep would do that), go to the Principal and report the
harassment right away. Even if you get one bad grade, it's better than
getting involved with this creep.
Once you're through taking classes forever or about to graduate, go to
the school principal with a parent and tell her / him what happened.
This man needs to be reported. He'll be asking young girls to his home
for dinner as long as he is a teacher.
You owe it to him and to prevent future students from becoming victims
to have the courage to tell the Principal what this guy asked you to do.
Have your mom or dad go with you to talk with the Principal and had
make sure you write what happened on a piece of paper signed by you and a
parent. The Principal will give him a warning and at least school
officials will be put on notice, and there will be a paper trail.
At your age, you should be dating people your own age, not men who are
way older than you are. Chances are, you'll find someone your own age in
college.
And just one more thing readers, Ayn Rand's pop philosophy of
Objectivism (better known as Libertarianism) is opposed to religion.
It's essentially incorporates Karl Marx's ideas about religion but under
a Capitalist, not a Marxist, economic philosophy. Objectivism teaches
that Capitalist economic theory is the "objective" real truth, and not
Catholicism. It is opposed to Catholicism and religion in general.
Jun 26, '07, 5:02 pm
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Re: Student In Need of Help
Yeah, I wonder if some of the people who post at Catholic.com are just spamming the site with really odd questions.
I've seen just about everything on this site running the whole gamut, especially in the moral theology section.
I wonder if some of the posters are just prankster teenagers pulling our legs.
Well, if you are, I hope your gaining a lot of personal pleasure and yuck yucks from doing so. Isn't it self-fulfilling?
There seems to be a lot of questions like these and others that maybe
Catholic Answers could form into a great book. You know, a Best of the
Threads, or Guide to Every Day Living for Catholics which would go over
all the oddball questions on the Catholic Answers threads.
Karl Keating could edit the questions, or perhaps a priest could and one
to three of the best answers people wrote in (edited for size) could be
selected, with some editing by Karl or the priest could be provided.
That would help a lot of people out there; and be easier to read. My eyes get a little blurry after a while on the net.
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